This is a great way to reach out to students around February 14th. It’s a highly social/party type idea that can be done in a home or school setting.
- Plan ahead. Set date, confirm location, and get fliers printed as soon as possible.
- Delegate. Give responsibilities to students and volunteers whenever possible.
- Create an atmosphere. Keep it informal and upbeat. For example, have music playing and refreshments available as students arrive. Christian students should go out of their way to make new students feel welcome.
- Promote the event (optional). Have your leadership guys buy a red rose or carnation for all the girls in the school, or the leadership girls can hand out chocolate kisses. Give them out the day before the outreach with an invitation
- to come.
- Obtain prizes. Obtain some really nice prizes, especially for the Dating Game contest.
Sample Outreach Schedule
- Mingling and refreshments
- Welcome (3 minutes) The emcee explains your campus ministry (i.e. a group for high school students who are interested in knowing more about God and how He relates to their lives.)
- Icebreaker (10 minutes) The “Famous Couples” game works great here.
- “Dating Game” (20-30 minutes)
- Student Testimony with a Relationship Theme (4 minutes)
- Relationship Talk and Gospel (15 – 20 minutes maximum)
- Comment Cards (7 minutes) Using a 3″ x 5″ card, find out their name, address, phone number, school, grade. Ask them to indicate if they received Christ, want more information, or want to get involved with your campus ministry.
- Announcements (2 minutes)
- Refreshments (no time limit)
“Famous Couples” Game
Start with an even number of participants. Previously, you have selected the names of several famous couples (example: Luke Skywalker and Princess Lea, Romeo and Juliet, etc.) As students come in the door, you tape the name of one of the famous individuals on their back (no peeking). He or she shows their back to others in the group and then asks a maximum of three “yes” or “no” questions only of each person to find out who he/she is supposed to be. He/she also trades off to answer questions with each person he/she asks. The object of the game is for each player to find out who they are and find their match as quickly as possible. Keep playing until everyone is matched up.
The Dating Game
Played like the old ” Newlywed Game” (see questions below). Have the partner of each pair (all the guys or all the girls) leave the room as the questions are being asked to their partner. Then have them come back out, ask them the same questions in front of the partner and see if they guess correctly what their partner answered. Tally up points for each right answer and give a nice prize to the winning couple.
Dating Game Questions
For the girls (guys leave the room):
- Which flavor of ice cream best describes your relationship right now: Vanilla, Rocky Road, Peaches & Cream, or Tooti Frutti?
- On your first date, which animal was he most like: Turtle, Kitten, Tiger, or Octopus?
- How long have you two been going out?
- What’s the most sentimental gift he’s ever given you?
For the guys (girls leave the room):
- Which Disney character would she say best describes you: Mickey Mouse, The Beast, Goofy, or Winnie the Pooh?
- What song is “your song”?
- What did you do on your first date?
- What is her favorite perfume?
- For her Valentine’s Day gift, which of these would she most like to receive: Candy, Flowers, or Kiss?
- What outfit is she wearing right now?
Your talk should be short, to the point, and provide a natural transition to the gospel. A good talk may include the concept that we are all looking for love and special relationships. We have so few models, though, of how true love is demonstrated. Suggest one example of love that can be true for us all – a love that will always last – the love of God. Then transition to the gospel and follow-up with comment cards.
Introduction of Talk
(Begin with sharing a funny or embarrassing dating story.)
My embarrassing moment is similar perhaps to what most of us regularly experience in our relationships with others. Relationships are not only difficult at times, but they also take up a great deal of our time and energy. Examples of relationships we encounter are relationships with parents, relatives, friends, co-workers, and members of the opposite sex.
Our Number One Need vs. Our Number One Fear
Relationships are very important to us. One of the reasons they are so important has to do with our need to love and be loved. Psychologists tell us that our Number One need in life is to love and be loved. At the same time, however, our Number One fear is that we will never be truly loved by others or be able to love others ourselves. Because of our great fear of failure in relationships, we tend to put on “masks” in order to hide from others who we really are inside. We do this because we are afraid of how others may react when they see the “real” us. If they see us for who we really are, they may not like what they see, and reject us. For most of us, that is too painful to handle. That is why we tend to let people see only what we think they want to see. For example …” (At this point, give a funny example of someone putting on a “mask.”)
Sometimes even our best friends or our parents (i.e. those who we care most about and who know us best) will reject us if we don’t meet up to their expectations. That’s really painful! What are we supposed to think when that happens?
Different Types of Love
You see, we all want to be loved and appreciated for who we are. The problem is there are not many people who are willing to love us that way. Most people will only love us if we do such and such or because we are such and such. There are basically three kinds of love.
- The first is the “I love you if . . .” kind of love. It says, “I’ll love you on the condition that you continue doing what I want you to do for me.” For example, “I love you if you have sex with me,” or “I love you if you spend money on me,” or “I love you if you give me all the attention I expect.” It goes on to say that ,”When you stop doing it, I no longer love you. “
- The second is the “I love you because of . . .” type love. This kind of love is based on the condition that you continue to live up to my expectations. These might be, “I love you because you are beautiful,” or “I love you because you are popular.” But, if the situation changes or the other person’s expectations for you change then its, “I no longer love you. ” What people really desire and need deep down is the type of love that is unconditional, and non-manipulative.
- This third type of love is called “I love you – period.” It is the kind of love that loves the real you, no matter what.
One Who is Willing to Love – No Matter What
The question is, “Is there anyone who is willing to love us, no matter what?” The answer is, “Yes, there is such a person.” As you may have guessed, the person I am speaking about is God, our Creator. The Bible tells us when God loves someone, He loves them regardless of how they look, how smart they are, or how many friends they have. In other words, He loves them for who they are. Wouldn’t you like to experience God’s unconditional love? You can, if you have a relationship with Him. Let me explain how you can have a relationship with the God who created you, so that you can experience His love. There are several truths you must understand and believe to be true of in order to enter into a personal relationship with God.